My 101th Post

Yesterday I came from a wedding shower. It is going to be the wedding of my former team leader/ former housemate/ friend Vel, who is marrying Ed my friend/ Former drinking buddy/ frmer teammate.

It's funny how they met. They used to be so sick of each other and someway sometime they ended up liking each other stuck together and decided to marry.

And I would I will be a wedding singer who is supposed to wear a deep red long gown. A color I have never worn all my life. Well It would be an adventure somehow.

To date they are the second couple I see marry in my 29 year life. It's cool.

I'm currently reading the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. I have just finished the part of Habit 1 Which is be proactive. It is interesting to know that a lot about our language speaks about how reactive a person we are as supposed to be proactive. If you are a person who talks as if everything is beyond your circumstance such as the use of words I have to, I need to, If only, If I had you are most likely to be a reactive person who's circle of concern is bigger than your circle of influence. Changing a Have over a Be attitude makes a person proactive enough to widen his circle of influence over matters and concerns. The change is simply Choices over feelings and exercising our RESPONSE-ABILITY. It's cool how he had this all written down to be really embedded as a habit by giving exercise suggestions on how to practice the habit. I am taking his 30 day proactive challenge he says just make small commitments for 30 days to exercise your response-ability. Its interesting because just last saturday in our night meeting Luis talked about the difference of the phrase I did all I can vs I am doing all I can which is a perfect example of coveys statement on a reactive response as oppose to a proactive response of "there is nothing I can do" vs. "Let us look for our alternatives". In my thrity day proactive challenge, I wrote down three things that bug me the most about my present state and the solution and action steps that I will be implementing. I thought about it as not so hard which are things I already know that I should do but have never exercised response-ability over. It will be for sure a challenge for "feeling" over "being".